Friday, May 14, 2010
Does the Punishment Fit the Slave?
How do you like to be punished? Or how would you choose to be punished? How do you hate getting punished? How are you most afraid to get punished? And what punishment turns you on the most? Will your favorite punishment be the one that turns you on the most? Are you afraid of the punishment that you “hate”? How do you get punished the most? And why are you punished?
I read a lot of blogs where people are punished for specific infractions. Often they are real things in life like forgetting to pick up the dry cleaning or getting home late. I have to admit I was never so into that kind of punishment and maybe I should have been and I would've had less arguments with people over time. I punish my slaves for performing specific slave, humiliating and sexual tasks. I also punished slaves because I enjoy it so I schedule it regularly. The only time I have punished the slave for real life stuff is when it occurs during our scene. For example, if I tell a slave to wear a collar, no panties and meet me somewhere at 6 PM and she either forget and wears panties or arrives late, especially because she forgot her collar and had to go back for it, are reasons I would punish someone for real things. The other has occurred when I have been with a woman who may have dominated one of my slaves in the past, and was now ready to see what it was like to serve alongside a slave or to try bisexuality. In these cases, in order to create the scene, I have instructed the slave to be clothed and at the door instead of r naked and in position. I will then walk in with the usually dominant woman, who was silently undress and get into the position the slave would usually greet us in. I would explain because of lateness, forgetfulness, whatever, this bitch was going to be punished and was going to serve as slave to the slave. This always served as a great bridge scene for this situation. It put the usually dominant woman in the place she requested, which was to serve and be punished by another woman instead of dominate and punish her. Usually it was not difficult to get a normally submissive girl to punish and command another woman because in the past this woman had punished that same slave and had commanded her to do all kinds of things to her body, either sexually or to embarrass her. This was the case between slave S and slave M. Slave S had the ability to switch even though she was primarily submissive. She was curious about being with another woman but was scared to take the plunge. After M had gotten into the new mindset of serving me completely, I decided she would be an excellent slave to S occasionally. And she was. I have to admit that using M sexually with other women was particularly exciting because I knew she would do it but she professed to not doing it for any reason other than her Master expected it. She made it clear it was part of her submission not her curiosity. I would have had them be together regularly but the real world rarely works that way, and it would not have been fair to M (though I should note she was always excited during these times and was able to cum every chance I allowed her) so I got them together on a very occasional basis. Eventually, S wanted to serving a woman sexually. So for the first time we decided to set the scene with M by my telling her that S. has been running late all the time and was going to be punished being M’s slave that day. M really put S through her paces. When she wasn't demanding S’s tongue up her ass or eating her pussy, she was whipping S, hurting her nipples, strapping on a big dildo and fucking S up the ass. Interestingly, S. let me know afterward that she found it exciting to do all these thing to another woman, but would prefer her serving right alongside another woman instead of being dominated by her. I asked if that was because she did not like how much M chose to punish her? She said she didn't care what I chose to have done to her, even if she had been punished just as much, but it would be more enjoyable for her if I commanded M to punish her or to sit on her face, rather than it come from M herself. So the next time, I had M. naked and waiting for us in her slave position, bent over the end of the couch with her hands reaching back spreading her cheeks and when we came in, S got undressed, walked over to M and got into the same position right alongside her. From that point on, whenever I got them together, that was the way I had S. and M. serve together, unless I specifically wanted to watch one dominate the other, in which case I often had S dominate M. One of the things I enjoy about watching a slave dominate another submissive is that even though they hear the commands regularly, have to perform the acts, and receive the punishment; they are often not as convincing and severe as they could be when dominating another. Because of this I get to punish them for not being severe enough or demanding enough, while enjoying them dominating and punishing the other slave.
Now, if I had to answer the question and choose a favorite punishment, it could be beating an ass with a wooden paddle, or it could be using a braided cat’o nine tails that raises lovely welts but can be used for far longer than a paddle. Maybe my favorite way to punish a slave is to make her do things that excite her that she would not choose to do on her own, such as serving another woman. Fortunately, picking a favorite is not the same as limiting one’s activities. I could not do that. I like to vary my repertoire as much as I like to vary my other sexual activities. When not engaging in D/s I do not just do one thing or get on one position. I like to take a girl from behind, lick her ass and eat her pussy for as long as she can take it, get blow jobs, anal sex, sex in the bath, in the shower, etc.,etc., etc.! I would not be happy limiting my activities, yet I see people on the internet that label themselves “spankos” and are very happy to do so. I have been on sites of spanking videos, where spanking means with any implement from a hand to cane to paddle, but fans have complained when there was bondage, nipple play, forced acts and other role-play with dress up, collars and crawling. There are clearly people out there who very specifically want to beat an ass, and indeed they talk about it like that's a goal in itself. For some of them, they separate the act from sex. I can, and do that as well, when appropriate. If a slave is supposed to undergo a specific punishment for a reason, if they are to be punished without enjoying themselves, if we have a scenario to play out and they will be punished periodically throughout and entire day or weekend; all of these would dictate the punishment without immediate sexual gratification. However, in general, to me and the women that I've been with, the purpose of a lot of this is as foreplay. I would be very interested to know what you people out there think of this! Is punishment all you are ever looking for, or is it foreplay? Could you be satisfied with one kind of punishment? If your ass was spanked and whipped regularly but you never felt another nipple clamp, never crawled on a leash or said “whatever you want Master” again would you be fulfilled as a submissive, and could you be fulfilled sexually?
Going back to my question, from my perspective, choosing a favorite punishment is more complicated than it appears. Let’s take the first choice I mentioned, the wooden paddle. Actually, though I enjoy it, it is probably what I use the least! This is because when wielded with force it is the most painful and damaging of all my generally used implements. I have another implement that I use even less than the wooden paddle, which is a very heavy leather loop at the end of a riding crop handle. From various sites that sell these things it has been called a flogger, a carpet beater, and on one site that sold a version made out of rope, it was said to be one of the most painful and potentially damaging of all punishment implements. Only K. and M. could handle it. That’s why, in general, for standard punishment that may be for an infraction but is usually mostly for my pleasure, I prefer to use implements that allow me to use a good amount of force yet allow the slave’s skin and pain tolerance to take prolonged punishment. Therefore those implements I use the most are a folded over leather bullwhip (which is much less painful and damaging than an unfurled bull whip wielded forcefully), a two-tailed short leather quirt, a thin black dressage riding whip and a moderately weighted rattan cane. I also have several cat o'nine tailss of varying weights and lengths, some whose tails are knotted. These can make an ass or a back turn beautifully red, leave some welts, yet are easy enough to take so that the whipping can go on for as long as I choose. The cane and the dressage whip can be particularly painful if wielded with force and if I intend to use them very hard, may have to be used more judiciously. In fact, as you should know any of the whips if wielded with enough force can only be used so long before the pain or damage to the skin can become excessive. I like to see a pained reaction in my slave’s face and I like the punishment to continue as long as I feel the need, but at the same time I respect each individual's limits and while I am happy to work with them to expand those limits, I am also quite willing and able to remain within them. When you are both interested in expanding limits, it is important to remember that a slave's limits are also fluid and affected by things beyond what you are doing.. Slaves like M and K were able to regularly take severe punishment and showed few limits, however there are times of the month when neither could handle much nipple punishment and neither could tolerate more than a moderate whipping. In this regard they are much like any other women I've known; the week before their period they are often too sensitive to stand much punishment. The two weeks after their period was over was the time that all the submissives I've known could tolerate the most punishment; the hardest whipping, paddling and most severe nipple torture and anal insertions. Have you found that for yourself or others you know? Finally, in my case since the D/s is about mutual satisfaction and often sexual gratification, what I asked at the beginning of this post is very important for me to know. M liked anal punishment, severe nipple punishment, hard whippings and forced humiliation. Kayla loved her back to be whipped almost as much as her ass and also loved her big tits and nipples to be abused harshly and for long periods of time. K wanted the hardest paddling and most severe nipple torture. S enjoyed spanking, whipping, caning,nipple clamps and humiliating acts of servitude. Sometimes a slave won;t enjoy the actual pain as much as taking it for her Master or because she feels she should be punished. Sometimes she will. Sometimes she will accept punishment and sometimes she will desire it. Let’s hear your thoughts on the topic of punishment!?!